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  • feedwordpress 23:16:24 on 2017/11/29 Permalink
    Tags: Adam Grant, , Ben Wager, , , , , , Kevin Dutton, Morten T. Hansen, mutuality matters, NetBridge, Nikolas Kichler, Shareable Cities, Zappos   

    Six Ways to Cultivate a Sense of Mutuality With Others 

    1. Two Ways to Turn an Insult Into Opportunity to Bring Out Their Better Side • In Split-Second Persuasion, Kevin Dutton recalls a story in a London newspaper of “an elderly Afro-Caribbean man traveling home from work on a bus. At one bus stop a drunk guy got on and couldn’t find a seat. ‘Get up, you fat black nigger bastard!’ he shouted at the man. ‘You calling me fat?’ responded the man. The bus erupted with laughter, causing the drunk guy to stomp off the bus and the responder to attract admiration and support. “Disaster averted in just four…
     
  • feedwordpress 19:35:52 on 2017/10/23 Permalink
    Tags: allies, , , clout, , , mutuality matters, Peer2Peer,   

    Seven Traits to Emulate to Become a Sought-After Ally 

    Apart from honing their top talents, guess what renowned surgeon, author and public health researcher, Atul Gawande and billionaire founder of Virgin Group, investor and philanthropist, Sir Richard Branson have in common? They have two vital and intertwined traits in this increasingly complex world where we are drowning in information. They’ve sharpened their ability to be quotable and to be deeply connected to notable people in worlds apart from the one in which they work. In so doing, they are likely to see trends early and be considered thought leaders on a broader stage, thus being able to attract more…
     
  • feedwordpress 19:17:02 on 2017/07/20 Permalink
    Tags: , , , John le Carre, , , mutuality matters,   

    What I Ultimately Learned From My Mortifying Mistake 

    To this day I’m mortified when I see a box of chocolates. Perhaps sharing this story may save you from embarrassing yourself in a similar way. I was in the Antwerp airport, heading back to San Francisco. Before settling into a seat at my gate I bought two indulgences for the flight home, John LeCarre’s Our Kind of Traitor, and a box of Pierre Marcolini truffles, one of the most popular brands in Europe. Within minutes I was swept into LeCarre’s masterful spy mystery. But I promised myself I would savor my truffles, eating each one slowly. At some point…
     
  • feedwordpress 19:31:58 on 2017/05/30 Permalink
    Tags: , , mutuality matters, praise, quotability, recognition, relationship-building   

    Make Your Praise More Memorable, Widely Shared and Long Lasting 

    My client, the CFO of a Berlin-based maker of wireless portal equipment had a rugged yet very successful third year of operation where all employees voluntarily worked long hours. Part of the way he wanted to collectively celebrate the company’s success was to hand out ten awards for different kinds of contributions. Yet, in addition to the usual way of celebrating the winners at an on-site company gathering he got an idea about how to make the recognition matter even more deeply felt and widely heard and shared. Here’s how. He confidentially spoke with a close working colleague of each…
     
  • feedwordpress 19:11:48 on 2017/04/27 Permalink
    Tags: , , , Eli Pariser, Facebook, Filter bubble, John Kasich, Kind Foundation, mutuality matters, Obama, opportunity-makers, , the big sort   

    Want a Way to Get Out of Your Filter Bubble on Facebook? 

    A recent research finding by Morning Consult that only 5% of adults seeing social media posts on Facebook from those with a much different world view is recent sign of how social media can reinforce our living in “filter bubbles” – meaning a tendency to surround ourselves with likeminded people and ideas. Way back in 2013 I wrote in my Forbes column about Eli Pariser’s insight book on this topic. And in my blog in 2012 I cited his book and two others that warned of this tendency – The Big Sort and On Being Certain. According to the Morning…
     
  • feedwordpress 18:56:41 on 2017/04/26 Permalink
    Tags: , mutuality matters   

    Tips for Those Who Want to be Rooted in Love 

    • It is harder to argue when you are holding hands. • Showing appreciation and attention, especially when you least want to show those traits and the other person most needs them, will often bring you closer. • Look to the other person’s positive intent especially when it appears he or she has none. • Saying less and listening more often gets you more of what you want. • Looking directly and warmly, rather than away, often brings out the part of the other person that you most enjoy. • Making and keeping an agreement usually helps the other person…
     
  • feedwordpress 23:06:17 on 2017/02/15 Permalink
    Tags: , Moving From Me to We, mutuality matters, Mutuality Matters More   

    Actionable Insights About the Power of Mutuality Mindset 

    Ready to live a more accomplished, adventuresome and meaningful life with others? Here are some actionable tips from Mutuality Matters that may move you to adopt that mindset: Adopt This Counterintuitive Way To Be Well-Liked One of the biggest misconceptions about connecting is seeking, first, to be liked. In fact, the counterintuitive way to get someone to like you is in knowing this core truth: If they like the way they feel when around you, they will like you. In fact, they will project onto you the character traits they most like in others, even if you have not yet…
     
  • feedwordpress 21:25:54 on 2016/08/28 Permalink
    Tags: Carlos Santana, , , , mutuality matters, opportunity   

    Why Re-Define Your Life Towards a Mutuality Mindset? 

    Who Are You Becoming? After winning several music awards one year, Carlos Santana was asked by an eager young entertainment reporter, how he felt about “this belated recognition after so many years as a professional musician.” In an apparent non sequitur, Santana smiled warmly and replied, “I am becoming the people I love,” to which the reporter responded, “But what does that have to do with the awards?” Santana explained, “To a greater degree over time, these friends, musicians or not, seem to infuse my music and my life. And my friends say the same has happening to them.” Then,…
     
  • feedwordpress 20:17:19 on 2016/07/23 Permalink
    Tags: , , , Daniel Kahneman, Emrah Duzel, Maria Popova, , mutuality matters, Patrick Tucker, Steve Nguyen, Susan Cain   

    Fertilize Your Combinatorial Creativity by Connecting with Diverse Individuals 

    If successful scientists “have often been people with wide interests,” as Cambridge University professor William Ian Beardmore Beveridge concluded in The Art of Scientific Investigation, then you, too, might make more breakthroughs by seeking more varied people and experiences. Innovation most often happens when you adapt an idea from one domain into a new one, and that’s most likely to happen when you engage with people from different professions, backgrounds, industries, ages and so on. As Brain Pickings’ Maria Popova suggests, we need combinatorial creativity to have more experiences so we can connect the dots, cross-pollinate. Like LEGO building blocks,…
     
  • feedwordpress 14:55:08 on 2016/07/11 Permalink
    Tags: , , , connective, flexible, mutuality matters, mutually supportive, Patricia Linville, , Steven Johnson, , Tom Peters   

    Why Become a Connective Leader in Our Complex World 

    “Diversity trumps ability” as a sufficiently diverse, large group of non-experts often outperforms a small group of experts,” found Future Perfect author Steven Johnson.  In our increasingly complex, disruptive world, we will face more situations where we can benefit from calling on the so-called wisdom of the crowd.  Thus it behooves us to have colleagues with very different work and life experiences, and from diverse professions and industries. Be aware of the mitigating problems of “social influence” so you can sidestep them. Secondarily, as a connective leader, hone your capacity to recruit and involve them to support you, as you would support them,…
     
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