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  • feedwordpress 00:24:32 on 2017/09/28 Permalink
    Tags: , bended knee, choice, Deborah Tannen, , Michael Krans, Robert A. Burton MD   

    Feeling Certain? How Our Brains Betray Us 

    Within seconds, an expert can look at a fake painting and know it is not the work of a master. So wrote Malcolm Gladwell in his book, Blink. How? Because the expert’s gut feeling is “perfectly rational.” Not so, writes Robert A. Burton, M.D.in his book, On Being Certain. Even though we may feel certain (“objective”) about our conclusions, we are often “subjectively” wrong. Just like love or anger, certainty is an emotion, not a rational process. Burton’s book provides a warning for the times we dig in, knowing we are right and they are wrong. As Deborah Tannen pointed…
  • feedwordpress 23:09:28 on 2017/07/12 Permalink
    Tags: , choice,   

    Why and How to Look Out for Your Life’s Turning Point Stories 

    She’d been fidgeting for some while. Suddenly, she turned and started talking to me. For two hours we’d sat silently, side by side at the airport gate, waiting for our airplane to arrive. Leaning on the narrow metal armrest that divided our seats, she looked at me hesitantly yet determined. “Now I need to be brave for my father. I’m not sure I know how. I’ve always leaned on him for help, you see,” she nodded briefly at the man across from us. She continued, “We haven’t been on a plane since we flew here from Bogota last November. My…
  • feedwordpress 18:25:58 on 2017/07/05 Permalink
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    How to Not Act Like a Jerk When With Someone Who Is 

    Perhaps one of the most vital ways to sidestep hassles and to become more sought-after is to strengthen your capacity to stay cool when under fire. For starters, discover how can you make someone feel heard and respected – and cool off — when they start acting hostile, blaming or worse. Here are some behavioral “tools” to add to your “toolbox” for the next time someone is upset and taking it out on you. None will work all the time, and some will work better for your personality style than others: Lighten Up When others begin to act “hot,” we…
  • feedwordpress 19:11:48 on 2017/04/27 Permalink
    Tags: , choice, , Eli Pariser, Facebook, Filter bubble, John Kasich, Kind Foundation, , Obama, , , the big sort   

    Want a Way to Get Out of Your Filter Bubble on Facebook? 

    A recent research finding by Morning Consult that only 5% of adults seeing social media posts on Facebook from those with a much different world view is recent sign of how social media can reinforce our living in “filter bubbles” – meaning a tendency to surround ourselves with likeminded people and ideas. Way back in 2013 I wrote in my Forbes column about Eli Pariser’s insight book on this topic. And in my blog in 2012 I cited his book and two others that warned of this tendency – The Big Sort and On Being Certain. According to the Morning…
  • feedwordpress 19:23:22 on 2016/10/13 Permalink
    Tags: choice, Dan Pink, Helen Palmer, Marcus Buckingham, Maty Seligman, , , temperament   

    How Many Personalities Are Inside You? 

    That irritating co-worker you’re stuck sitting by (again!) sees a decidedly different side of you than your best friend does. That’s because you have many people inside of you (no they’re not imaginary). That’s what veteran science writer, Rita Carter discovered as she began reading about bi-polar personalities for Mapping the Mind. Emerging research shows that several, “personalities are made and kept separate in the human brain” … of everyone. Want a glimpse of how many you have? Depending on the situation and who you’re are around, different people pop out and speak for you. If it is of some…
  • feedwordpress 19:19:21 on 2016/08/10 Permalink
    Tags: choice, decisionmaking traps,   

    How to Avoid Decision Making Traps We All Fall Into 

    We can all make wiser decisions by understanding these common mental traps we often fall into. 1. The Confirming-Evidence Trap This trap is the bias that leads us to seek out information to support our existing point of view while avoiding information that contradicts it. This bias not only affects where we go to collect evidence to reinforce a current stance or perspective, but also how we interpret the evidence we receive, leading us to give too much weight to supporting information and opinions and too little to those that are conflicting. In one study of this phenomenon, two groups…
  • feedwordpress 14:51:34 on 2016/06/27 Permalink
    Tags: , choice, , self-defense, violence, worry   

    See Fear as a Friend & Worry as Self-Harassment 

    “Whenever you’ve felt profound fear, it was usually linked to the presence of danger, imminent pain or death, said security firm founder and author of the classic book, The Gift of Fear, Gavin DeBecker. In a National Public Radio interview he said, “When you feel fear, try to ‘link’ it back to a past situation where the feeling that was similar to see if your fear is, in fact, justified.” Honing this ability may not protect us from some kinds of acts of violence such as the Orlando shooting, or the horrific, perpetual shootings and executions in Syria. Yet it can…
  • feedwordpress 23:54:22 on 2016/01/20 Permalink
    Tags: , , choice, , , , kindness,   

    See Kindness As Your Inoculation Against Anger 

    Whatever behavior we praise we encourage to flourish in others – especially when they are around us. Whatever we criticize or “simply” snub goes deeper into their consciousness however. Hint: Speak to their positive intent, especially when it appears they may have none. That may be the best way to bring out their better side so they are more likely to see and support yours.  Sure, that’s not easy, yet it is easier than the alternative. Emotions are energy-giving or sapping. In every interaction we either react or choose how we will act. We choose where to put our attention and…
  • nmw 07:09:59 on 2014/10/02 Permalink
    Tags: choice, ideal, ideals, , , , , , , , true, truth,   

    We create the world we live in by the stories we choose to tell about it 

    The best stories, the ones that last, contain nutritional value that teaches us how to do this; how to grow into heroes willing to sacrifice themselves for the people they love and the ideals they believe in.


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