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5 Explicit Ways to Be More Valued and Visible With and for Others
Rather than asking for a favor how can you offer obvious ways that others can benefit by responding to what you specifically suggest? To prime the pump of your “us-oriented” approach to life, here are five,real-life examples of successful and satisfying ways that others have generated more value, visibility and support, with and for others: […] -
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One Way to Have a More Adventuresome Life With Others
Unexpected and sometimes enlightening things can happen when sharing a new experience with those who don’t act right, like you. I got unexpected insights when, with two friends, I walked through the Steins Collection of paintings by Matissse, Picasso and other avant-garde painters in bohemian Paris. In most every gallery room one friend would sit […] -
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When Making Us Feel Smart and Happy May Move Us to Buy
That saying “familiarity breeds contempt” may be true. We tend to take loved ones for granted over time, no matter how well-intended. Yet it is equally true that familiarity breeds acceptance. Thus it is easier to stick a new idea in someone’s mind if you can attach it to something familiar – an existing memory. […] -
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Why Waiters Cried While Serving Our Breakfast
After the priest moved to a new parish he approached his superior to ask, “Would you mind if I smoked while praying?” and was, not surprisingly, turned down. If, instead he had said, “Would you mind if I pray while I am smoking?” he might have gotten a more positive response. Here’s the unexpected way […] -
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Why Waiters Cried While Serving Our Breakfast
After the priest moved to a new parish he approached his superior to ask, “Would you mind if I smoked while praying?” and was, not surprisingly, turned down. If, instead he had said, “Would you mind if I pray while I am smoking?” he might have gotten a more positive response. Here’s the unexpected way […] -
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Turn Potential Conflicts Into Opportunities to Connect
When I saw my dear friend, Daniel, walking down the hall toward me that morning I smiled and held up the book I’d gotten for him. When Daniel saw me he looked stricken. Then he quickly wheeled around and shot into the men’s room. Deeply hurt, I avoided him for several weeks until his sister called to tell me that their mother had finally gotten a court order requiring their father to leave the home because he had been hitting her brother. She said her brother was embarrassed about not being able to defend himself and that was why he… -
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Turn Potential Conflicts Into Opportunities to Connect
When I saw my dear friend, Daniel, walking down the hall toward me that morning I smiled and held up the book I’d gotten for him. When Daniel saw me he looked stricken. Then he quickly wheeled around and shot into the men’s room. Deeply hurt, I avoided him for several weeks until his sister […] -
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Turn Potential Conflicts Into Opportunities to Connect
When I saw my dear friend, Daniel, walking down the hall toward me that morning I smiled and held up the book I’d gotten for him. When Daniel saw me he looked stricken. Then he quickly wheeled around and shot into the men’s room. Deeply hurt, I avoided him for several weeks until his sister […] -
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Say it So They Remember and Believe It
Dusk settled coolly over the vineyards in Napa Valley, California, one fall evening. Through the window, we gazed wistfully at a thin stream of bittersweet chocolate sauce a waiter was ladling high over a raspberry-colored cake at the table of a hand-holding couple, inside the big stone restaurant operated by the Culinary Institute of America. I knew it was bittersweet chocolate because the rich smell was drifting through the French doors out onto the patio, where we were drinking a fine Cakebread cabernet next to two giggling toddlers, just as happily chewing red licorice twists from the local 7-11 store.…
